As mamas, we’re the unofficial professional multi-taskers for the entire family!
Wash the dishes. Do the laundry. Clean the bathrooms. Keep up with work deadlines. Keep the kids entertained. Make appointments. Pay bills.
We go & go & go & suddenly… we’re absolutely drained!
WE NEED A BREAK!!
Enter the elusive date night.
But wait! The bills are due. The babysitter is busy. The car just broke down. No money or time? No problem!
Enter the easy-peasy date night at home!
I know what you’re probably thinking: date night at home? Boring…
Date nights at home conjure up thoughts of cooking a special dinner and then having to do the dishes (ugh, some date night, right?). Well, get that notion out of your head!! Okay, confession: this date night idea is included, but I can help you make it fun!
So without further ado, I give you…
Date Night Ideas at Home
1. Star Gazing Date
For this date night, all you need is your lovely selves, a blanket, and maybe a pillow or two! Spread out your blanket in some nice, cushy grass, throw the pillows around, lay back, & relax while enjoying God’s beautiful creation!
Use this time to talk! And not just about the day, either (although that is important!). Talk about your goals. Talk about your feelings. Use this time to brooch that tough topic with kindness. Tell jokes. Play 20 questions. Or just hold hands and bask in the presence of each other. Leave the phones inside!! Or at the very least, on silent in your purse FAAAR away from your hands!
What about the kids??
If they’re older, wait until they’re in bed & let them know you’re right outside if they need you. If you have a baby, put them to bed & set up a monitor so you constantly know they’re okay! Just be sure to stay in range of the monitor in case baby wakes.
2. Hobby Date
I particularly love the hobby at home date because it really allows me to get involved in my hubby’s interests (or vice versa!) Basically, whatever you (or your partner) love to do, do it together!
For example, my husband is into video games. Sometimes, it aggravated the snot out of me when he got super into them and I felt a bit ignored (although in his defense, he has majorly put the gaming on hold since E.K. was born!).
Then I realized two things: 1.) the man deserves a break! He works hard & he deserves to enjoy his hobbies just like I enjoy mine! 2.) I can take interest and make it fun for both of us!
Therefore: the hobby date! I’m absolutely abysmal at video games, so I typically just watch and give fantastic commentary while we snack to our heart’s content!
But what about those kids?!
Put them to bed, set a task for them (homework for example), or let them join in! Date nights don’t necessarily have to be couples only!
3. Lazy Day-te
Next time a free Saturday comes up, have a “Lazy Day-te”! This one is especially fun if you have a family member who’d love to watch the kids for an afternoon!
Basically, you spend all day in bed kind of like you did on lazy days before kids! Lounge, nap, play games, watch videos, eat junk food in bed, & don’t even think of getting out of those jammies!
This is a great date to just relax, unwind, & reconnect with your partner. Sometimes you both need to be reminded that the person you fell in love with before kids is still there under the layers of responsibility & everyday life!
Buuut the kids!
As I mentioned, take those babes to grandma’s house!! Or your sister’s/best friend’s/MIL’s house! If you have older kids, let them stay the night at a trusted friend’s house!
If you have an infant, you can still let the grandparents have an afternoon of baby time (with pumped milk if breastfeeding)! If that just isn’t an option, just let them join in on the lazy goodness! I promise you’ll still have a good time.
4. The Dinner Date (told you it was in here!)
Yep, the good ole dinner date at home. The key is to make it fun! Plan ahead & buy the stuff to make a special meal while you’re grocery shopping: scallops, steak, stuffed chicken… whatever you & your spouse love to indulge on!
Cook the dinner together! Have some fun with it! Throw flour at him! (Disclaimer: not the whole sack! Even if he has been difficult lately!) Joke & laugh! Dob a bit of cake mix on his nose! Just be silly & enjoy each other!
While dinner is finishing & resting, get dressed up! Just something as simple as slipping on a cute dress & combing your hair will do! You’ll both appreciate the effort!
Don’t just do the cooking together. Wash the dishes together! Most anything can be made fun if you do it together with a good, loving attitude! My husband & I have made so many chores fun by doing them as a couple!
You have a few options here: wait until they go to bed (after eating their own dinner, of course!), let them eat at a separate table with their own special meal (those dino nuggets they’re always begging for!), or let them join in on your special meal!
5. Standing Saturday Morning Pancake Date
I love having a standing date! It gives me something to look forward to every single week, it doesn’t require pre-planning, & it makes an everyday activity something special!
Every Saturday morning before the kiddos are up, have a breakfast date! Take turns cooking each week so you both get some sleep in time!
Make it special & change it up: French toast, Belgian waffles, avocado toast, bacon & eggs, so many possibilities!
It’s such a fantastic way to set the mood for the rest of the day!
KIDS! I know! Eat before they get up! Give yourself at least 45 minutes of alone time before their normal wake up time. When they get up, let them enjoy the special breakfast as well!
It won’t always work out, but 7 times out of 10, you’ll be able to enjoy that precious morning alone time!
Just remember that any moment, any day, any activity can be special! We may not always have the extra funds or the babysitter or even the time for a full-fledged date, but we always make it work & a lot of times, it turns out even more fun than the traditional ones!
Do you have a favorite “at-home” date? Let me know in the comments! I may steal it for a future date night at my house!
Keep the sparks alive always & your family will prayerfully grow & prosper!